The show Love after Lockup is a huge
hit, predominately because it's impossible to not watch a train
wreck. If you are determined to learn nothing from this show, read
on.
A human being can actually change their
entire life around for the better and be a better person. Those issue
are frequently lurking in the back ground, ever present, waiting for
the moment to pounce. Are they redeemed? Possibly, but having a
romantic relationship with someone who is fighting demons, sometimes
on a daily basis, is harder then the average relationship.
There is absolutely a culture behind
bars to swindle money from unsuspecting persons who are not familiar
with street or jail culture. If you are not educated about how that
life works, you are sitting there like a raw steak on a silver
platter for a predator. It does seem that women do this more often so
beware of extremely good looking and sexy photos intended to lure
you. I have heard of men doing it but it would be the exceptional
inmate to pull that off. (for a good example of this, watch Scott and
Lizzie from Love after Lockup season two as she is very honest about
what she did and how she did it.)
I have done death row ministry for very
many years. I chose death row inmates because they are not getting
out and if they are innocent, the last thing they would do is hunt
someone down who supported them to kill. If you want to reach out for
missionary purposes that's great, but commit to never sending money
or putting money on their accounts. You will quickly be able to
determine if this is a valid friendship or not. If it isn't, it is
likely they will make demands stating you just don't understand how
hard it is, or other manipulative ploys.
Remember, these people are not in
PRISON for skipping church or singing off key in the choir. They have
committed very serious crimes. Yes, people can be rehabilitated, but
with the lack of programming that is both available and effective,
chances are they have not been. I have seen and known people who
have, but it was because they came to the realization that who they
were and what they thought was the issue. They stopped being a
“victim of the system” and took personal responsibility for their
past actions without excuse.
You can absolutely build genuine
relationships with people behind bars. It takes time and effort and
you must be clear about your intentions. It's not that different then
buying a vehicle. If you go to a sleazy small car lot, your gut will
flip and scream that you should not trust the salesman. If you
encounter a sincere salesman at a reputable lot, you will experience
something different. You have discernment for a reason, I strongly
recommend you utilize it.
Avoid pen pal sites, instead, contact
the chaplain of the prison you are interested in writing people and
get a recommendation from the chaplain or give him your address as a
means of support for whatever religion you are currently involved
with.
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