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Dear Jaycee Lee Dugar

Dear Jaycee,

Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for being so courageous and putting into words what so many of us feel. Some of us were raised in homes with parents like your captor. No one ever noticed our suffering or our bruises. Some of our scars are invisible, just like yours. So many chances to be saved, but getting involved would have made them committed to a human being that was not their own.

I'm sorry for your suffering. I am thankful you have been able to rebuild your life with your mother and daughters. I understand your desire to avoid publicity and the spot light. No one in their right minds wants to be known for trauma.

You put into words so many things that so many of us live with, but words and explanations escape us. How does one explain the difficulty of a crowd and the danger associated with strangers and what they might do to us. It seems impossible, and yet you've done it. I don't know how many “outlayers” will contact you to let you know, but I wanted to make a public letter. It is amazing how we can meet someone like ourselves and just breath in unison, without words, and feel accepted.

36 is closer to 40 then 35, but you're young. You have many years ahead of you. Someday, grandbabies! So many great things to come. I don't know that I could offer you anything since even though I am light years away from where I started, I still feel dreadfully behind. All I can offer is an ear that doesn't need everything explained. A safe place to just breath. No doubt, with your progress you have tons of that now.

Thank you also for debunking Stockholm Syndrome. I don't know about Patty Hurst who made it “famous”, but you're right. You never forget who is in control and who is hurting you and you must predict and read that person constantly for safety's sake. With families like this, it can be difficult to break ties and cut them off (for some of us anyway), and other loved ones criticize us for this choice. When someone is that ingrained in your being from having to survive, it is difficult to let go.

Horses are magical. I don't know how or why they work, but they do. The most amazing thing in the world to me is to simply stand close to a horse and just inhale their scent and their being. They absolutely possess the power to heal. I'm so happy to know that you own and care for horses!

I wish you nothing but the best in all your endeavors – personal, professional, private or public.

Kindest Regards,
The Feral Blue Chicken

Visit Jaycee's organization: Just AskYourself to Care




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